Anniversary celebrations continue as I asked another great couple their views on life, love, marriage and the truth behind ‘happily ever after’.
Ahsan is both a cousin and a buddy. When he married Sadaf, a doctor by profession, I found another buddy! They got married on 20th July 2006 and currently live in Karachi with their beautiful little daughter, Alina.
Ahsan is both a cousin and a buddy. When he married Sadaf, a doctor by profession, I found another buddy! They got married on 20th July 2006 and currently live in Karachi with their beautiful little daughter, Alina. Me: Define the word ‘marriage’.
Sadaf: Marriage is the strongest yet the most delicate bond between two people. It is definitely the richest relationship that exists, which keeps on unfolding every day.
Ahsan: Marriage is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you will get!
Me: Arranged or love? Does it matter after you actually start living as a married couple?
Sadaf: In my opinion, it hardly matters if marriages are love/arranged, No matter how many years you’ve been together before marriage, life after marriage is a fresh start and a different experience. Knowing each other before marriage is definitely a great help but not an essential element for a happy married life. It’s the love, care and importantly, respect that make it work.
Ahsan: Love. Why? Because I had one!
Me: Which song best fits you as a couple?
Sadaf: Zindagi main toh sabhi pyar kiya kartain hain – Mehdi Hasan
Ahsan: Truly, Madly, Deeply – Savage Garden
Me: A cheesy question. Which fairy tale or story (or maybe even film) couple do you relate yourself as a couple?
Ahsan: Never really thought about it. And now that you’ve asked, I can’t remember any film!
Interesting take on marriage. Not sure about the arranged versus love thing, I would imagine it matters but then I have never really talked to people in an arranged marriage so would not want to judge. I recently reflected on marriage in this post http://reflectionsanddeflections.blogspot.com/2011/01/points-to-ponder-take-3-on-staying.html
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Farheen, thanks for your comments on this subject on my blog. From your description, it sounds like your parents just introduced you but if you did not "like" each other would the marriage go ahead? In Africa, this also happens quite a lot, especially in rural areas. It is not uncommon for someone's parents to 'bring' them a wife. Sometimes the marriages work out well, sometimes they don't (I guess that is true with all marriages regardless of how the couple met). We also tend to confuse arranged marriages with forced marriages and sometimes use the two terms interchangeably even though they mean different things. I wish you all the best in your marriage!
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